When women support each other, incredible things happen. So today, I’ve decided to share little story about my personal self development and how I became more empowered in my life. I’m doing this because I want to inspire young girls and women. I want to inspire and empower my friends. My family. My nieces that I love so dearly. I want someone, someday to look at me and say “because of you, I didn’t give up”. I hope sharing my empowering story, I can start helping to inspire and empower other women out there lacking that little spark in their day. For me personally, this is something that I have always wished I could do. And now through LaBeaute, it’s all being made possible. I want to reach out to women worldwide and give them the confidence they so desire.
What I’ve started to notice, not only in day to day living, but more so online, is that women are feeling less empowered. They want to do something, but they lack the confidence to do so. Today marks the start of a new series called ‘Women Empowering Women’ where I and other women can share their story on LaBeaute on how they overcame their own personal challenges and have empowered themselves to a more stronger and more confident version of themselves. Whether it be in mentally or emotionally, we all struggle with something whether it be lack of confidence, feeling undervalued, feeling alone, toxic relationships, single parenting…the list is endless. I’ve always believed that it’s to raise awareness and spread the message to one another. I hope by creating this initiative we can all help each other achieve ultimate empowerment, fulfillment, happiness, happy relationships, healthy families and thriving careers.
I’m obsessed with seeing women thrive in their personal and business life. Being motivated to succeed, being in control and having the self confidence to believe in oneself are some of the strongest powers women can possess. I strongly believe that we need more women empowering other women. If you haven’t read already, the purpose of starting LaBeaute was to share the most beautiful things I see in life, in this beautiful world from a beautiful mind. A lot of what labeaute is all about is helping empower women, rather than being envious and hateful of each other. A few examples of this are how we like to support and give a shoutout on LaBeaute to newbie bloggers and also give appreciation to bloggers that have inspired our journey.
Empowered Women, Empower Women
If you have followed labeaute.org for a while, you may have noticed that at the end of each and every single blog post, no matter the topic, I like to put a small but empowering quote, like this one here. These quotes are fundamental to the LaBeaute. These quotes are fundamental to my life. I hope they become fundamental in your spiritual journey to empowerment and ultimate happiness, success and confidence.
Self-acceptance is the first step to empowerment
Self-acceptance is hard when you are going through a tough time. I totally get it. I’ve been there and felt that way. And I still do. I’m not perfect. I’m not from outta space. I’m just like you. It’s these times that are the most testing in our lives. Especially when your life can be sailing along just fine and a trigger event happens and you just delve deep into a spiral that’s hard to get out of (just like what happened to me here).
But it’s during these times, that we can change our lives around. It’s during these times, we can learn to empower ourselves and rise above. In difficult times, self-acceptance seems like a dying fire, a lost hope, but when you cherish it and hold it close – it turns into a leaping fire – more solid and stronger with time. Seemingly, accepting yourself is like telling yourself, “I can do it, I can get through this, I can and I will.” There actually are so many ways and props to help us empower ourselves but instead, most of us live our life delving into our failures, disappointments, and haplessness (i.e. being unhappy).
For me personally, being a blogger – I feel the pressure of representing myself in a certain way. The continuous stress to be ‘out there’, to make my content the best in the world, to be on par with others in the blogging community and the competition; eventually it all takes a toll on my mind. However, the good news is that I’m slowly learning to control it.
I’ve set schedules, I’ve loaded my desk with quotes, inspirational thoughts, and beautiful verses that I can peek at while working. It’s just so good to be constantly reminded of your self-worth while doing your own thing. I’ve learned to remind myself that sometimes missing out on an opportunity is better than agreeing to do it, simply because someone else is doing it.
A Strong Intention Is A Strong You!
Self-empowerment comes from intention. So, what’s your intention in life?
My intention is to learn to be the best version of myself. There are stages in your life when you are compelled to take up the image of someone else for making an impression or forced into a life where you find yourself lost and without a purpose. I’ve had suffered enough spells like these in my life but reading the inspiring story of Jessica Ruiz – the famous makeup artist left me motivated enough to pursue what I’ve always wanted to be – A fulltime blogger that encourages and inspires women to do the same.
Jessica suffers from an illness that prevents her from using her arms and hands completely. Though, this disability didn’t stop her from achieving her dreams of being a makeup artist. She was bullied in school and was rejected when she applied to makeup schools but instead of changing her career or opting for something that was more fitting for a disabled person – she learned makeup by watching YouTube videos,while practicing it on herself and her sister. This amazing lady uses her mouth to hold makeup brushes! After doing numerous jobs for free, now she earns a living with her makeup skills.
Another example is a beautiful blogger I’ve recently come across. Her name is Rheannon and she has suffered from a debilitating illness, but has now promised herself that to overcome it, she is going to relive her life in a completely different way. She is stronger, more determined than ever and is grateful for things she can do rather than the things she can’t do.
Always be a first-rate version of yourself and not a second-rate version of someone else. – Judy Garland
Empowering Yourself Requires Planning
For self-acceptance, I’ve personally found that organization is the key! And nothing can be more empowering than looking back, reflecting and starting anew. Set goals, no matter how big or small. For example, now I get up early, drink coffee with a smile, grimace less while working and set a time limit to every chore that needs to be done. Simple things that were once ‘goals’ are now habits and actually make me more productive, make me feel accomplished, but more importantly, they make me feel good.
Hold Onto Patience – Not Perfectionism
I’ve always feared of being average, since, it paints a sickly, feeble picture of me in my head. In High School days, I remember cringing inwardly at the words “Not Good Enough” when my teacher handed me my assignment papers back.
I couldn’t gulp in feedback that started with “Fine, Okay, Better and Satisfactory, for an answer, as it promoted a paralyzing fear of being a failure in me, hence, achieving perfection has always been my number one goal but sadly, what I’ve realized through time is that such thinking is directly linked to depression and misery.
The only time you should ever look back, is to see how far you’ve come
I’ve managed to preside over my inhibitions, my insecurities, and accept the truth that people are imperfect, in fact that is what makes us human. There will always be someone, one step ahead of you, richer than you, more blessed than you, successful than you, does a better contour than you (LOL) etc. and still we spend half of our lives racing to the end of this inescapable life cycle.
Self-acceptance is not about achieving perfection or giving up entirely, it’s about improving yourself in small steps each day.
Having the world at your feet is nice but it’s not more than that.
Believing in goodness of money solely sketches the shallow thinking of your mind. Having money is good but making it your life’s mantra is not. I’ve learned to accept that not owning everything is fine, it makes you realize that you need not to be perfect, whether it comes to living a luxurious life, or buying a certain product.
Whether we like to admit it or not, living in today’s world, is all financial. We have to survive financially. But we also need to become empowered in order for our lives not to revolve around money.
Budgeting is a great way to lift off the permanent damper from your mood and lets you be in control of yourself. Rather than sweeping a glance over the gleaming beauty counters, focus on healthy eating habits, which can help your body, your skin and hair all lifelong. Learn to make do with what you have until you reach a point where you relish pampering yourself.
The beauty of achieving something with patience is more long-lasting, than what can be availed in the snap of your two fingers
Learn to love yourself and others as well. That’s the first step of empowering yourself. Having a positive aura doesn’t only benefit you, but can motivate people around you in a big way. Distance yourself from people who belittle you, keep company with people who are comfortable in their own skin. “Self-acceptance is skin-deep and promotes you to find balance both physically and mentally, so practice it while you can.”
Spending your life in self-acceptance is far better than the one lived in self-loathing.
Remember – when women support each other, incredible things happen!
Thank you for reading ladies and remember, if you a story of your own or would like to feature someone close to you that has overcome their difficulties in the ‘Women Empowering Women’ series, we would love to hear from you. Please email us (which you can find on our contact page) or leave a comment down below so we can contact you.
Have a lovely day ladies!